Scribbling Dame

Preposterous Pondering.

Wise women are fat August 27, 2010

Filed under: Mommy Issues,SuperWoman Syndrome — Scribbling Dame @ 7:20 pm

Lately, over ice cream, I have been developing a theory: wise women are fat.

I cannot think of a woman that falls into the category of mentor or sage or role model who is thin. Which is not to say that they don’t exist but I am willing to bet that any wise woman you can think of has some unconventional characteristic be it crazy hair or weird clothes or a mole or something.

Which got me to the question, which came first? Is the wise woman fat or is the fat woman wise? (Insert any distinguishing characteristic to replace fat.)

In Eat, Pray, Love, Liz Gilbert (or Julia Roberts if you only saw the film) spends the first part of her journey of liberation in Italy gorging herself and buying bigger designer jeans. Did her newfound knowledge about her needs cause her to let go of her image or did letting go of her image allow her to find knowledge?

Most of us moms do not look the same way that we did pre-baby, unless you are a winner in the genetic lottery, to which I say congrats and fuck you, which I totally mean in a nice way. For the rest of us, some of this is genes and some of it is straight up energy: what mother has the time or money for that matter, to fuss over her image like she used to? Most of us feel lucky to shower! In some ways I have found my new body liberating and dread the times I have to squeeze into Spanx (for other reasons than appear in Do Not Trust the Peehole). It is a physical conformity and I frankly have more important things to worry about on a daily basis. Other times of course, I feel old or fat and well, matronly.  No matter what, I feel wiser than I was prior to motherhood.

When I think of being wise and the women I look up to, they all have a clear sense of who they are and they are not timid about showing that real self to the world. Because they are women, I believe their identity or self plays out in a physical sense, hence being rotund: I am a self who likes food. Crazy clothes: I am a self who has her own sense of style. Crazy hair: I am someone who likes to be edgy. Or, I am someone who doesn’t believe in hair product.

Cinderella’s Fairy Godmother just wouldn’t have the same influence if she was as svelte as Cinderella. Even Oprah is more accesible because of her struggles with weight. Maybe we take their advice because they are individuals–we know they are not just feeding us the usual bullshit and therefore we take the time to listen more.
I am definitely not encouraging anyone to become obese or unhealthy, I just find the correlation fascinating. This may just be me making shit up, and I did take a risk by trying to be “deep” on a Friday afternoon.
Just consider yourself more wise the further you get from the status quo.

3 Responses to “Wise women are fat”

  1. Just wanted to say I love your writing and your column over at The Passion Project. I’d like to add you to my blogroll if you don’t mind.

    I completely agree that when women not only accept who they are, but are also brazenly unapologetic about it, they have reached a certain level of wisdom and deserve a certain amount of respect, if for no other reason than having gotten to that point. Although I’m going to personally substitute tattooed and foul mouthed for fat. 😉

    • Thanks for adding me to your blogroll! How exciting!

      I am pretty sure that each tattoo makes you wiser, so go crazy! I think when I get there I am going for crazy hair, unless I keep up with this whole chubby thing. But, swearing is a given.

  2. ANNIE Says:

    Oh wise woman of the wise…I bow to thee for bringing such enlightenment to all. Loved it.

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